Relationship closure: a story

August 4, 2016
Divorce is hard. It just is. There's no way around it, either. To get out the other side we have to go through it. Period. If you're the person who has been left and...

Helping a friend through gray divorce

July 14, 2015
Some of us get a little squirrelly when a friend's long-term marriage ends.  It's called "gray divorce" and if ever our friend needed our support, it's during this...

Celebrating five. Or 42. Or just celebrating.

July 15, 2014
Forty-two years ago today I walked down the aisle of St. Ambrose Church in Rochester, NY and married my adorable 24-year-old college sweetheart, who, coincidentally...

This is how it happened.

July 10, 2014
If there's one thing women are most interested in,  it's how my husband and I got back together some 27 years after our divorce.  It seems inconceivable that we could...

Stand in your solitude. At least for five minutes.

April 28, 2014
To my darling and beloved sisters who think they need a man to become empowered, I just want to say this: You can empower yourself. And you SHOULD empower...

Alone again

March 2, 2014
What is it about being alone that instills such fear in people? Two beautiful, accomplished, vivacious women in their mid-50s I know are struggling to embrace a new...

Monogamy: “it’s not natural”

January 24, 2014
"Do you think monogamy's natural?" I asked a girlfriend at lunch the other day. "Absolutely  NOT!!"   She was emphatic.  "We're raised to believe it's natural and...

Divorce, religion + the stink of hypocrisy

December 23, 2013
It was a high-profile divorce for a small city where not much of significance went on. They worked together at a company that was getting attention and one thing led to...

Happy wedding anniversary X 2

July 15, 2012
Today is our anniversary. Actually, it's our anniversaries. Plural. We've been and also are celebrating this wedding anniversary How can this be?After 37 years...

Healing after divorce

July 18, 2011
Divorce is a reality.A sad one, but reality, nonetheless.Here's another reality of divorce(or any split):It's none of our business.A divorce (or a romantic split of...

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