It really IS all about the consequences

December 27, 2022
I haven't always made the best decisions in my life. Not the best decisions for me OR the best decisions, period. So let me make that perfectly clear. Also, I do...

What does it mean to be the black sheep?

March 23, 2022
Black sheep syndrome. It's that feeling that you don't belong. That you are different. That one of these people in your group is not like the others and it's...

Generational pain and the legacy of immigration

December 2, 2021
I am the granddaughter of Sicilian immigrants, who left all they knew at the turn of the 20th century to forge a new life in a strange country. They did not speak...

Don’t kid yourself: inherited pain is real

September 22, 2021
Inherited Pain Children who were abandoned grow up to love people who abandon them. This stopped me in my tracks with its truth. Inherited pain is...

Can you ever really go home again?

July 27, 2020
When I was not even 21 I left my hometown of Rochester, NY (the suburban town of Irondequoit, to be exact and EAST Irondequoit, to be precise.)  I left to start a new...

Is your family crazier than mine?

January 17, 2020
Every time I think my family has the corner on dysfunction I learn that other families I know have it even worse. From publicly throwing each other under the bus to...

What about the history behind history?

May 13, 2019
History has the ability .... transport us to another time and place--including our own past. The recent docu-series on serial killer Ted Bundy transported me...

Brushing off the dust of the past

September 26, 2017
A big sigh. I'm sitting here thinking about how difficult it would be to watch a new generation fall victim to my family's dysfunctions. "Family." The word is a...

How a calf, 4H and a ranch made her a writer

August 6, 2017
She was raised on a ranch in Alberta and I would have never encountered her in my day to day life. But social media connect us with a broad range of people and...

Like family. Only better.

January 5, 2017
  Father Sun, Grandmother Moon, to the Star Nations. Great Spirit, you who are known by a thousand names And you who are the unnamable One. Thank you for...

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