When misery loves company

January 12, 2022
The other day I realized that I knew people who only showed up when I had something challenging going on in my life.  Even the appearance of something challenging...

How good the hand of an old friend feels. Two friends? Even...

November 17, 2021
If there's such thing as an overload of endorphins, that's what I had after a summer visit from friends of almost 50 years. I had friends before them and many friends...

The day she made me smile, then think

August 31, 2021
On the phone with bestie this morning: "You saved my life during this Covid thing," she said. "You know that, right?" "How do you mean?" I asked, with a smile...

How holding space is more supportive than blind loyalty

July 27, 2021
In all the years I've lived in California--some 36 years--I can't remember anyone bringing up the subject of loyalty. But since I've been spending time in my hometown,...

Dare to be yourself

July 12, 2019
A friend is someone with whom you dare to be yourself. - Frank Crane This about sums it up, doesn't it? Friendships ebb and wane, come and go. But the very best...

How to Marie Kondo-ize a relationship

June 17, 2019
It strikes me that Marie Kondo's method of assessing whether or not to keep a belonging--"does it spark joy?" works extremely well for relationships of all...

How do you affect others?

April 30, 2018
Let's take a moment for self-examination. I do this, every so often, myself, and I thought I'd share. How do we affect others? Do they come away with smile? a good...

Weeding out

January 29, 2018
"Last year you decided to weed out people who weren't reciprocal, and you did," my husband reminded me at the end of December. "So what's your goal for this...

The one measure of a friendship

August 15, 2017
Safe shelter. That's all any of us are looking for in another. Being seen. I mean, really being seen. It's the beauty of our relationship with our pets, isn't it?...

Turning point

January 24, 2017
Do you remember any particular turning point in your life? Maybe a time when you ended a bad relationship? Or left a job that no longer fulfilled you? This has been...

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