The one measure of a friendship

August 15, 2017
Safe shelter. That's all any of us are looking for in another. Being seen. I mean, really being seen. It's the beauty of our relationship with our pets, isn't it?...

Turning point

January 24, 2017
Do you remember any particular turning point in your life? Maybe a time when you ended a bad relationship? Or left a job that no longer fulfilled you? This has been...

The gift of being seen

September 19, 2016
See me Feel me Touch me Heal me Who sees you? Oh, I don't mean by eyesight. I mean really, really SEES you, the totality of the person you are. Think about it. Is...

Old friends: a treasure

August 25, 2016
A longtime friend was feeling nostalgic one night, not too long ago, and emailed me with memories of a time he felt alone and we stepped up and were there for him. We...

The two-way street of friendship

July 12, 2016
There's a lot going on in my life and only so much time, which means I can't do everything. As part of my ongoing effort to set limits for myself, I'll sometimes look...

I plan ahead.

April 14, 2016
I'm a planner. I've always been a planner. But I haven't always planned as far ahead as I do now.  I'd like to be more spontaneous all the time, but it's not possible....

How to maintain a long-distance friendship

June 22, 2015
I am the queen of the long distance relationship and that includes friendships. My policy is, why let geography limit you? Here's why: because it means you can't be...

One life, don’t blow it!

May 9, 2015
We had our first Kona Brewing Company beer at a party we attended the other night.  I wasn't surprised to see the brand, since our friends have a place in Hawaii,...

How to be a good house guest

November 5, 2014
Girlfriend tells me that last holiday season she had the house guest from hell. Ok, maybe that's an exaggeration. But as she described it, her house guest was a bit...

Evaluating our friendships

October 14, 2014
When I read this quote last month it stopped me in my tracks. Evaluating our friendships--and our friends-- is something we don't often do. But why not? If we are the...

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