Is transactional giving truly giving?

March 13, 2024
In the shower the other morning I wondered what exactly it means to be a giver. Sure, lots of people give. And a big proportion of that number identify as givers. But...

The slam book of today

January 25, 2024
Remember the slam book? I think of it every time i see someone post this on Facebook: Post this on your timeline and invite people to tell you what they like...

Her mark was indelible

December 27, 2023
When we met didn't realize how huge her impact on me would be. The indelible mark she'd leave on my life. She was, in fact, my very first friend in California. I...

If you’re a caretaker, this might be why

December 20, 2023
Cheer when your friend wins. Hold her when she's sad. Love her when she needs hope. Care for her when she says she's fine. Believe in her when she doubts. Show...

Do you have a dog in this hunt?

December 15, 2023
Dog in this hunt: stake in the outcome. My position on any given personal situation, especially big ones like relationship endings, is to determine if I have a dog in...

The death of what you thought

October 17, 2023
Been around the block a time or two, and I think you have, too. And yet, we do have our illusions. Our hopes and dreams. And what we thought. Someone in one...

“Life’s too mysterious, don’t take it ser...

October 4, 2023
Life's too mysterious, don't take it serious! For years I had this saying up in my house and I thought about it again the other month when a favorite cousin called...

F*** the small talk

July 6, 2023
Yeah, about the small talk ... But first: I've been known to drop the F bomb from time to time, but far less now than in years past. There's so much jarring...

The power of discernment in friendship

April 5, 2023
The subject of discernment AND friendship keeps coming up for me and today, I realized that the two words are related. I've always prided myself on having a wide...

It may look easy, but it’s still heavy

March 29, 2023
Just because someone carries it well doesn't mean it's not heavy. Well, I sure do have a lot to say about this. I've always been one of those people who looks...

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