What is envy & is it ever ok?

October 15, 2024
I'm never comfortable when someone says they envy another. Back in the day I had a girlfriend who was significantly well off at the time. Much better off than...

Just walk away, Renee

July 16, 2024
I do think about them from time to time. I wonder where they are and how their significant other is. If they’ve traveled recently and where. But if I saw them...

Stand up and be counted

May 23, 2024
The week I wrote this was an emotional and thoughtful week, beginning with a really long and deep call with an old friend. She was deeply involved in a relatively...

Do you have a dog in this hunt?

December 15, 2023
Dog in this hunt: stake in the outcome. My position on any given personal situation, especially big ones like relationship endings, is to determine if I have a dog in...

The death of what you thought

October 17, 2023
Been around the block a time or two, and I think you have, too. And yet, we do have our illusions. Our hopes and dreams. And what we thought. Someone in one...

Why you should take a breath (or more) before sharing that

October 10, 2023
I follow the posts of a FB friend who is a psychologist.  A recent post got my attention because it involves one of the most destructive things to any relationship:...

How endings are not such a bad thing, after all

July 15, 2023
There are no beginnings unless there are endings. Well, except for birth. That's the uber-beginning. But endings are natural. Endings of all kinds. And they're...

Has your heart been broken?

June 28, 2022
Has your heart been broken? If it has, my own heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like: I didn't reach my advanced age without an arrow or two to my own...

Don’t kid yourself: inherited pain is real

September 22, 2021
Inherited Pain Children who were abandoned grow up to love people who abandon them. This stopped me in my tracks with its truth. Inherited pain is...

How holding space is more supportive than blind loyalty

July 27, 2021
In all the years I've lived in California--some 36 years--I can't remember anyone bringing up the subject of loyalty. But since I've been spending time in my hometown,...

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