Better than sex (almost)

January 18, 2017
A great shampoo I'm not sure I like anything better than a great shampoo. I once had a stylist with long, strong fingers with which she massaged and scrubbed my scalp...

The problem with porn

December 28, 2016
Or more appropriately, is there a problem with porn?   Yes, for those of us still around and not in a post-Christmas coma, let's get right to the nitty gritty. I...

Are we really having the “best sex of our lives?̶

May 25, 2016
I loved the guest post on orgasm that Walker Thornton did while I was away.  Her reminder that pleasure comes in many forms--not all of it orgasm-centered--is...

Orgasm at our age

May 9, 2016
If you think orgasm isn't a big deal at midlife and thereafter, you're mistaken. Having one, not having one--these are topics of interest in our age cohort, whether...

6 ways to protect your teen

June 17, 2015
Today, I'm raising the curtain on something that's a parent's nightmare. What follows is content that will disturb you, and yet it's something that every parent needs to...

Is the sexual continuum accurate?

June 4, 2015
Whenever I hear the term "sexual preference," it's like nails on a chalkboard. That's because sexuality is really not a preference at all. It's an orientation. If...

National Masturbation Month

May 1, 2015
Well, it WOULDN'T be. That is, if there were a  hell, which I don't believe there is. Or if touching yourself was a sin. Which I don't believe it is. Isn't it...

50 shades of crap

February 10, 2015
"My community is on the sidelines shaking their heads....breeders...this is news? a hot topic? Really? What crap, indeed!" ~my gay husband on 50 Shades of...

Not the stuff of romance

August 9, 2014
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. "The heart wants what the heart wants" is a truism that's driven countless romance novels, because we can all...

It’s National Masturbation Month

May 7, 2014
Let's pretend he's our age. But if you're younger: In the interests of equal opportunity: or this one I try to acknowledge the month every year. If you'd like...

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