Is the sexual continuum accurate?

June 4, 2015
Whenever I hear the term "sexual preference," it's like nails on a chalkboard. That's because sexuality is really not a preference at all. It's an orientation. If...

National Masturbation Month

May 1, 2015
Well, it WOULDN'T be. That is, if there were a  hell, which I don't believe there is. Or if touching yourself was a sin. Which I don't believe it is. Isn't it...

A personal story about gender identity issues

April 27, 2015
It was the early 1990s and I was doing volunteer work for an organization that provided services to people with HIV and AIDs. What we did was something called "emotional...

Tim Cook came out; moved us forward

November 30, 2014
  When Apple CEO Tim Cook came out, it was both an event and a non-event. It was a non-event because here in Silicon Valley, most of us knew he was gay--he's never...

Coming out: Part 1

August 2, 2014
The closet still exists. So many of us in the San Francisco Bay area find it hard to believe that it does: we've lived with openly out colleagues, politicians and...

It’s National Masturbation Month

May 7, 2014
Let's pretend he's our age. But if you're younger: In the interests of equal opportunity: or this one I try to acknowledge the month every year. If you'd like...

Bettie Page: an American original

January 15, 2014
This post has an adult theme. If this offends you, please do not go further.         Back in the day, pin-up girl Bettie Page became famous for...

Dialogue is how we reach understanding

June 26, 2013
National (and individual) conversations about racism, homophobia and bigotry have amped up this week, starting with the Paula Deen deposition and on to the invalidation...

National Masturbation Month is half over

May 16, 2013
"Remember back in the mid-1970s, when women's groups would hand out little plastic speculums and we'd all get together and examine ourselves and each other?" I asked a...

Talk is sexy to me

February 5, 2013
Talk is sexy and that doesn't mean sexy talk. The meeting of minds is a powerful union;  the brain is a powerful erogenous zone. I'm convinced that  the...

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