Not too long ago I blogged about writers I follow who have gone too far in their blogs. I felt they’d betrayed their partners and revealed too much personal information. But I want to be clear: I think good writing IS very personal. But–to the writer.
The blogger who wrote about her husband’s epic fails in gift giving obviously felt hurt that he didn’t take the time to really hear her wants and needs, and then didn’t take them into account. That’s the real issue. The thing that hurts. But the hurt wasn’t what came out. The spoiled, entitled brat came out.
And that’s the thing, really, isn’t it? Writing personally means writing about ourselves. Our feelings. What hurts US. It’s not so much about how we were done wrong. It’s about what we feel. Ourselves.
Sometimes, we must dig pretty deep to find it. Past the blame, the giddiness, the entitled feelings.
The blogger who wrote explicitly about her sex life wasn’t really writing about that as much as she was writing out of her own insecurity. Her own need to reveal certain things, but to do so obtusely. But the REAL blog post, the one I would have loved to have read, would’ve been the one about her insecurities about being older and monogamous. HER feelings. Not what she did in bed with her mate. (yawn)
I believe the best writing IS personal writing. Emotional writing. Writing our truths.
And that’s what I love about the quote up above, which is attributed to Ernest Hemingway:
Write hard and clear about what hurts.