Dahlia, my back yard
More often than not, the people in our life are a reflection of ourselves–our best selves and the parts of us we need to work on.
Our best friends can help us know ourselves better in so many ways, if we let them. The joyous part of friendship is that acceptance of who we are–exactly as we are. Which gives us the freedom to grow and evolve. To take input and use it.
And, if we choose friends we admire, it’s likely that we have some of those same qualities–or we may aspire to them. I’ve seen this at work in my own life many times, as my friends inspire me to fulfill my potential or take on new challenges. I know also that I serve as that kind of model for a few friends, which makes me feel really good.
Friends who are different than we are challenge us to find deeper understanding of what lies behind our differences.
Even those people in our life who act out do us a favor –if we let them– by helping us access compassion and forgiveness. By looking more closely at how these particular people are serving us, we might find insights into our own needs….and maybe even have a Eureka! moment or two. Which could be a catalyst for growth and change.
The examined life is not for the faint of heart, but it’s the only way to learn about ourselves. So. Wouldn’t it be interesting to do an inventory of the people in our lives and especially to identify the part of ourselves they serve?
Do they reflect the best of who we are? And if they don’t, what purpose do they serve? or do we serve for them? Yes, it goes both ways.
I did this recently and was surprised at some of the patterns that came up.
Viewing the people I associate with as a reflection of myself is something I hadn’t considered before. There’s been some transition in the people I associate with over these past few years and as I examine it with new eyes, I see that every bit of it’s been positive. Even if it didn’t seem so at the time.
What about you? Anything to share on this topic?