Get ready, I’m about to show my age. Or is it my common sense? You decide.
Scrolling through Instagram is a guilty pleasure. My feed is stuffed with cat and dog rescue photos, inspirational memes, Formula 1 racing, fashion and art, so it’s a reflection of me. Social media posts usually reflect the user.
But I also follow some much younger women–some celebrities and some not. Some very lovely young women.
Almost all of these young women post daily selfies. Usually in skimpy clothing and in provocative poses. That’s the extent of their feed. Nothing else.
And then their young female friends respond, usually one word, like “Fire.” or “Queen.” or “Hot” “Gorgeous” “Angel” “Slay” “Pretty” “Love you!”
THIS, for example
I just reviewed a few of those feeds and in a whole year of posts …let’s say 300 posts, I saw only selfies. Now, I love a beautiful young woman. But the repeated selfies –lacking any other substance at all- are a disturbing reflection of our society.
And what of this trend of posing with tongue out, like the old Rolling Stone Hot Lips logo, but really more like a crazy porn shot. WTF? It’s so…unattractive.
When I see young women doing this and their moms “liking” it, I wonder “why?” Is this really the message they want their daughters to give to the world?
Because no matter what else a young woman has to offer, THIS is what many choose to share. THIS is their online image. Part of their “brand.” I just don’t get it.
So I have to ask:
– What are these posts adding to the world?
– What does it say about the poster that they need to exhibit provocative shots of themselves every day or even more often?
-Why do they have nothing to say about their world or the world around them?
– What does it say about how they are growing up…or not growing up?
– Is it any wonder that we have a superficial view of beauty? and self-worth?
I wonder why I rarely see young women post anything with a scintilla of intellectual content. Not social or political commentary. Not even a movie recommendation. Or an action shot of them water skiing or surfing –unless posed in a skimpy bikini. Not a great meal they’ve just prepared. Just a static but provocative pose of a beautiful young woman exposing skin, and sometimes tongue, over and over and over.
I wonder why parents who see these posts –or even LIKE them–aren’t concerned at this amount of self-focus. That their daughters are revealing themselves to be superficial and self-involved.
Maybe they think “kids will be kids,” I don’t know. But were I a parent, I would definitely be concerned.
And then, this: I don’t post on TikTok but I can’t escape reposts on other social outlets. These days, role of cosmetics and the ritual of putting cosmetics on seems to have taken on great importance in the TikTok world.
This is actually a modest level of contouring.
have never SEEN so much contouring and it’s usually on young women who do not NEED contouring. Also, there seems to be a competition to find the strangest ways to start contouring. Brushing color on in triangles. Or a series of Xes. Or circles. Or slashes and triangles. Tribal patterns.
It is absolutely puzzling to me how it all works, especially because they seem to use one brush to blend it all together. How on earth do the colors stay where they are supposed to when you run the same brush threough it all? Why doesn’t the face become all one color. Maybe it’s my age, but…It is just so odd to me. I just saw one who used a FORK to guide makeup application. That’s right. She put the fork on her nose and applied makeup in the grooves. I mean. Seriously????
Oh and the trend to “get ready” on TikTok. That is, have a conversation with followers, really just a soliloquy, while putting on makeup. It is…riveting. And puzzling–as I wonder why I need to watch them put makeup on.
So yes, maybe it’s my age. Or maybe it’s that I am super-concerned about the values I see reflected among the tongue-out younger generations.
Or rather, don’t see.
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