How to find the lessons

September 25, 2017


This can be a bitter pill to swallow about tragedies and loss, but that does not take away from its wisdom.

Or its truth.

It’s something to think about.
What does it signify about the meaning of life?

When we look at tragedies, we view them from our earth-bound spirit, which often lacks the bigger picture, the greater wisdom. Deep in our suffering, we can not fathom that we are meant to confront this situation and learn from it. That it was planned.

We’re challenged to embrace a larger view of life and a more spiritual one. But caught up in our our life here, we often fall short. I know that I do. Because we simply can not fathom that we could be meant for this pain.

I’m reminded of the wisdom of philosopher Pierre deChardin, who noted that we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience. This is something hard to grasp and easy to forget. But it bears some thought when we’re facing tough times.

I’d love your thoughts.

*Oh, and Jordan is a spirit channeled by his father. He was murdered at the age of 23. And that is what he told his father, from the afterlife.

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24 comments on “How to find the lessons
  1. Jennifer says:

    Wow. That gave me goosebumps.

  2. There is definitely so much more we don’t know but I am spiritual and believe that life doesn’t end when our physical bodies leave this earth.

  3. Haralee says:

    That is quite an ‘Oh’ by the way!

  4. robin rue says:

    Oh there is definitely another realm or whatever you want to call it. Death is just the beginning.

  5. I certainly agree with this, although I probably wouldn’t say that to a person who is dealing with a fresh loss. In the long run, though, tragedies and loss are ultimately learning experiences.

  6. Meagan says:

    It is a hard truth to bear. We treasure certain things more than others and losing them can truly alter everything about you.

  7. Marcie W. says:

    Grief is a powerful thing. It can consume you if you are not careful, but looking at those experiences as life lessons is something I hope to truly be able to do someday.

  8. Love the thoughts that you found. We are always experiencing and learning sometimes it is sad but you grow from everything.

  9. I do think you can learn something from every experience but I’m not sure what anyone is supposed to learn from a tragedy or loss that will actually make them feel better.

  10. Pam Wattenbarger says:

    We definitely do grow from our losses. They hurt, but they do make us grow.

  11. I have lost many people and it did make me learn to treasure the time I have with those who are here with me now, we tend to forget because we’re so busy

  12. Ellen Dolgen says:

    I love that quote, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.” I find it very comforting…….Thank you……..

  13. That is such a great way to think about life…We are spiritual beings having human experiences. We often try too hard to make sense of things that we just won’t have the answers to.

  14. This is so true. I just wrote about some major life lessons that I had to learn. use the mess as the message in our lives

  15. Emily says:

    I totally agree that something comes from tragedy. It’s so hard to recognize it when you are in the midst of it though.

  16. Liz Mays says:

    It’s easy to get distracted from thinking like this so it’s probably helpful to remind yourself every now and then. I definitely go on autopilot a lot.

  17. Kita Bryant says:

    I’m reminded of the Bible verse that says that our battle isn’t against flesh and blood. Dealing with things of this world pale in comparison when it comes to dealing with our spiritual well-being

  18. Crystal says:

    Great perspective. It can be hard to see past the tragedy and realize there may be new opportunities or meaning.

  19. I agree with all these. Tragedies and losses are the bitter parts of our life.

  20. I believe we’re spiritual beings having a human experience. And, for whatever reason, life throws us challenges we need to overcome.

  21. Our Family World says:

    I firmly believe that we are spiritual beings and that we go on with our existence even after our human bodies died. The experiences we have while on earth is just like :”purifying” our soul so that we are “cleansed” when we go to he heaven.

  22. Toni McCloe says:

    It was Melody Beattie, I think, who said that when we are longing for love, what we get are lessons. The lessons, she said, are the love. Thanks for your post. I enjoyed reading it. I will look for and like your FB page.

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