What makes a good friend?

October 9, 2012
Curly Girl Design cards are fun and wise. Always.

Good friends are in the eye of the beholder, don’t you think?

Some people are most comfortable with friends who support them, come hell or high water.
Who look on silently while they make mistakes. Support above all else.

There’s something to be said for friends who let us live our own lives without commenting on them. Sometimes it’s nice not to get any kind of corrective feedback. To be accepted, warts and all.

Well, that’s not me.

When BFF was here the other weekend and hubby was watching sports in the family room, we spent evenings curled up under our individual blankets on the big bed, heads deep in pillows, watching TV and trying not to nod off. We sat in a spa hot tub and talked about all things. And we took several long drives that allowed us time to delve into life issues, real life issues and real time.

BFF is real with me and I with her. We tell one another what we think about stuff going on on our lives and sometimes offer advice.  Because we know without doubt that the other’s comments come from a loving heart, it’s never resented and always heard. 

A loving friend sees us for who we are an loves us for all of it–even the not-so-nice bits. And helps us make necessary shifts in thinking and behavior.

I never had that kind of curl-up-in-a-big-bed-and talk relationship with my own sister and never will. We just don’t relate at an intimate level. But I am blessed to have close sister-friends as my husband pointed out just the other day, and BFF is one of those.

It was a great weekend and I even learned a few things about myself.  I hope she did, too.

Here’s what I think makes for a good friend:

Curly Girl Designs makes rockin’ cards & other good stuff. I’ve bought this one.

So thank you, BFF, for opening a door to my life that I hadn’t noticed.

What do you think makes for a good friend?

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