Boomer friends, do you feel old?
I didn’t think so.
It’s always a surprise when I have to give my age. Am I really that old? I think.
Think back to the 1950s, when women looked old by the time they reached 50. Did these women feel as old as they looked? Or was there a 21-year-old inside just screaming to get out?
I don’t know. Maybe they felt like older women.
But maybe, just maybe, they didn’t.
Now that I’m an older woman I don’t feel old. Nor do I have any idea how I got here. One day I was 21 and the next? Getting ready to file for Social Security. It’s like driving in a car and getting to your destination with no memory of how you got there.
Hubby and I were talking about this just the other night. I was saying, as I often do, that I’d like to go back and re-live my life exactly as it was. The difference is that I would savor every day and ever experience even more.
“That’s the thing about being this age,” he said. “We know the value of being in the moment because we know how quickly those moments pass.”
Yes. The wisdom of age.
I don’t really feel like this. Not most of the time, anyway.
Sometimes I look at myself through the eyes of the younger people in my life and I have to laugh. When I was younger, I never once thought about what life would be like in my 60s, about what I would be like. I couldn’t fathom it.
But now that I’m here, I’m perfectly ok with it. In fact, I embrace the wisdom that’s come with the grey hairs. You know, the ones I cover up every four weeks.
The vantage point age provides should never be discounted, as the perspective it gives can be valuable. It’s a shame we don’t have a way to harness the wisdom of age for the benefit of those coming up behind us. It’s hard to do that in a society that doesn’t value age like “primitive” cultures used to. Younger people don’t look up to adults as crones, wise medicine men, keepers of wisdom.
And, the truth is, I didn’t, either, when I was young.
Well, kids, here’s the thing: it may not seem like it now, but you’ll be old before you know it. So live each moment along the way. Embrace every experience.
And if you have the chance to ask a grey-beard about life, do it.
So, old people: you’ve got the floor. How are you harnessing the wisdom of age for those coming behind us?