Those of us who write opinion–which is often what blogging is–always run the risk of offending someone. A social media friend looks at a post, assumes it’s about them and the next thing you know, they’re pissed off about it.
I have strong opinions and I like to voice them, so that’s happened to me more than once.
“You’re so brave,” one commenter said after one recent blog post.
No, I’m not so brave. I’m just not worried about being “nice” when I write.
Because too much “nice girl” makes for a very bland and boring writer. Trust me on that.
I’m probably one of the most thoughtful and caring people you might ever want to meet. Not any type of “mean girl.” But I’m always going to write what I see. My truth. And people may or may not like it. That’s okay. And your truth may be different than mine. That’s okay, too. As I’ve said many times, including this post about combustible friendships, if we were all alike it would be a pretty dull world.
I read a lot of blogs every day–maybe 30 every single day. Maybe even more. That’s a lot of blog posts in a year. Maybe yours is one of them. I have hundreds of social media friends. Maybe you’re one of those.
And I like to connect dots when I see trends. So when it comes to my blog posts, consider yourself one dot on that trend line.
So listen up, because here’s my disclaimer: More blog posts will come. You may think they are about you.
Chances are they are not about you at all. They are my observations about this new world of social media and internet and the people who populate it. Commonalities. In the aggregate. (And they’re usually the posts that get the most engagement, too. Funny, that.)
I can’t think of a time that I’ve written a post based on any particular person or their own writing. More than likely those posts are about trends and commonalities that I either admire, question, observe, make me laugh –or that I think are dumb.
And more than likely, it was written MONTHS AGO. Because I have more than 400 draft posts on my dashboard that go back more than a year. That’s right. And at any time I usually have 30 scheduled. If a blog post comes up right after something related you might have posted yourself? More than likely it’s coincidence. It probably has nothing to do with you. Because more than likely I started writing it months ago and scheduled it weeks ago.
So, don’t take it personally.
But, you know what they say:
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