Friendships are pretty simple, actually.
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Sorry for the loss of your friend and the missed opportunity for a deeper friendship.
Many of my friendships seemed destined to last for a season of life and to drift away with the job or the activity that the friendship was built around. I have to work to be okay with that.
Yes, there is that season thing, for sure.
I find the older I get, the more I treasure my friends. When we’re young, we’re busier, very involved in doing and having. As someone older, I see how much I need and value these lovely women and men.
I fully agree with that.
I’m of the opinion that oftentimes we complicate it because we’re afraid of losing it. I’ve seen that many times.
oh that’s interesting. Hadn’t considered it.
Why was I invited to join a small group of bloggers (you are part of this group) and then we disinvited? Because I had too many questions, I was becoming a problem. But that problem could have been solved with kindness and help. So now…
We complicate friendships because we do not take the time to sit and think, figure out where there are changes, reach in to our own hearts to discern how we can make things work. We live in a fast passed age that affects EVERYTHING we do and the decisions we make. Friends are valuable. In some way I am valuable to YOU…and I hope you realize that. I enjoy and admire what you write…so, thanks for your post.
Well, friendships are different from other groups that are based on a particular function. A friendship has no business reason or reciprocity. There is no structure. I think we complicate friendships when our requirements are different from what the other can provide, but then again that is true of other relationships, too.
So true. I love having close friends. It’s the people who accept you as you are that matter the most. I am quite quirky, so when I find others who get that, it’s perfect.
This really made me think. Friendships can become so complicated when we hold onto who someone used to be instead of allowing them to grow and change. I especially loved the reminder that as adults, we have the opportunity to create a new story together. Life is too short, and sometimes we don’t realize how much we’ll miss what could have been until that opportunity is gone.
This really made me think about how friendship can become complicated when we hold on too tightly to old versions of people. I especially loved the idea of “writing a new story” as adults. It takes grace, acceptance, and a willingness to see each other as we are now!
I treat friendships with respect and I do treat them seriously. That’s because I’ll open up to a friend, and I need to trust them. But your points are good. Sometimes maybe I’m too harsh.
Well…sometimes it’s because we’ve been hurt before.
Friendships and family are truly the foundation on which we build a life. Sometimes, things change and we must choose how to respond. I’m sorry for your loss and wish both of you had made amends… it can be complicated.
I have learned this as I move through life. I am recently divorced and a lot of friends don’t try to understand or be empathetic. That’s all we need, someone to be there for you when things are hard or whatever stage you are in in your life.