How holding space is more supportive than blind loyalty

July 27, 2021
In all the years I've lived in California--some 36 years--I can't remember anyone bringing up the subject of loyalty. But since I've been spending time in my hometown, it's come up twice. So what does it really mean? The dictionary calls loyalty a strong showing of support or allegiance. But the...

The new normal and yes, some of the old, too. Or at least w...

August 16, 2020
Is this the new normal? Blogging now from our hometown of Rochester, NY, where we've decided to wait out the pandemic. After a promising early experience with...

The examined life in a time of isolation

August 10, 2020
The unexamined life is not worth living, Socrates said, famously. I say the examined life can be hell. But truth is, it's the only way I can live. It ain't for...

I know nothing

August 3, 2020
It's the thing about getting older--we get wiser. Usually. We realize we know less than we thought and in many cases we really know nothing. At least that's been true...

Can you ever really go home again?

July 27, 2020
When I was not even 21 I left my hometown of Rochester, NY (the suburban town of Irondequoit, to be exact and EAST Irondequoit, to be precise.)  I left to start a new...

More thoughts from a cop – Part 3 of our conversation

July 18, 2020
Yes, more thoughts from a cop. My conversation with my police officer friend is still going on, but this is the last installment of this particular interview. If you...

Candid talk with a cop – Part 2

July 17, 2020
If you didn’t see yesterday’s talk with a cop, Part 1, start there. If you did, here’s the rest of the story. Why would I talk to a cop? Because, as he...

A candid conversation with a cop: Part 1

July 16, 2020
We might think we know what it's like to be a cop, but we really have no idea. The only reason I know how little I/we know,  is that I count several cops among my...

The nitty-gritty on the back-to-school debate

July 13, 2020
What if kids don't go back to school? What if parents don't want to take the risk that their kids will get sick or even carry Covid back to them or other family...

It’s got to be a wakeup call

July 10, 2020
It's always so bizarre and really, a wake-up call, to talk about Trump with people who get their view of our world through Fox. Or, as those who understand what news...

He was once Prince Charming

July 6, 2020
So many great discussions in isolation-- big chunks of time freed up space to consider things we haven't thought of or talked about in a very long time. Sometimes, that...

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