When is a chance one too many chances?

October 24, 2022
Too many chances. Do I give people too many chances? I wonder, sometimes. I forgive easily. Do not hold grudges. Do not mind starting over with...

On this day, 50 years ago

July 15, 2022
It wasn't unusual 50 years ago to see this Oldsmobile Cutlass on the road. What is an Oldsmobile, you ask? It was a division of General Motors and its last car came...

Has your heart been broken?

June 28, 2022
Has your heart been broken? If it has, my own heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like: I didn't reach my advanced age without an arrow or two to my own...

Sweeping up the pieces of a broken heart

January 27, 2022
In most of the novels I've read about men leaving their wives, the spurned wife with a broken heart wants to kill herself. It says a lot about me that when my...

Why I no longer twist like a pretzel

October 6, 2021
There was a day when I'd knock myself out trying to make a friendship or relationship work. Twist like a pretzel. Oh, the life contortions I was willing to make, the...

Why you should run fast as you can from someone who withhol

July 19, 2021
If you approach others with an open heart, you may not be familiar with the concept of withholding.  It's a pretty diabolical relationship dynamic and a big red flag...

Everything to me. Or not.

April 10, 2017
"I have many “spouses”–men and woman who are there for me in ways my husband simply cannot possibly be. I love him, but he is not everything to me, and if I...

Letting it all hang out

January 4, 2017
There's good writing advice and there's bad writing advice. So let's talk about that. I know a lot of bloggers and some writers who quote writer Anne LaMott, who...

When apologies are not really apologies

October 14, 2016
Have you ever heard one of those apologies that are really not an apology at all? Like this one: I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm all for sincere apologies. But...

Gender roles, relationships and…you

October 11, 2016
This is a question about gender roles and expectations in relationships. It came about after a conversation with friends in which I wondered what, if anything had...

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